Thursday, May 17, 2007

From our adoption class today...

Today, Kyle and I attended day one of our two-day adoption class in Madison. I'll post more of my impressions about it later, but one of the highlights for me was something our social worker read at the end of today's session. It made me smile, and it also made me think of my new Australian and New Zealand friends in blog-land. They'll have to change the destination, but I think they'll like it too. =)

"Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it's a wonderful place. You've read many guidebooks and feel certain you're ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip.

So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you: You'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait - and wait - and wait.

Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, "Relax, you'll get on a flight soon." Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, "It's not fair!"

After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat."

"By boat!" you say, "going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money, I really had my heart set on going by plane." So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat.

It's a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip.

Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many fiends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than air.

People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like, "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible: traveling by sea is so easy."

You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not in the way you got there, but in the place itself."


Glen and Andrea said...

WOW!! That is the best adoption/infertility analogy I've ever heard. Every bit of it is so, so true and it all relates so well to the 'trip'. Can I please copy this to my blog as I would really love the people I know to read it and if I just link them they won't come over for a look. (not as bloggy as us!).
Thanks for writing this all out, it must've taken a while but is the most encouraging thing I've read in ages.

Andrea from NZ

Robin and Kyle said...

Hi Andrea, of course you can post this. I didn't even type it up - I was going to, but found a copy online somewhere and stole it with a copy and paste. =)

Have a great weekend!